🧱 Day 4 – The Company of Men

Right Relationship to the Forge

🧱 Day 4 – The Company of Men

So we just sit around talking?

Function Two: The Field of Performance.

"The company of men is not therapy—it's orientation. It's how we remember order in a world that worships chaos."

Shift from recharging → exchanging.

The right man doesn't fix you; he reflects you. He helps you remember who you really are.

The circle becomes the dojo—a field where ideas are tested, not just discussed. Men sharpen each other's integrity, structure, and mission through embodied practice.

This is Interdependence—the conscious choice to connect. Not needy dependence. Not isolated independence. But the willingness to witness, to be witnessed, and to sharpen your sword in the company of men who will tell you the truth.

Today: open your heart for feedback.

Deliver your truth. Sharpen.

Tomorrow: The integrated man—the one who can walk alone and with others, without confusion.

⚒️ The Power of Conscious Choice

⚒️ The Power of Conscious Choice

I lost an hour of brilliance today.

Walked outside talking to God, to myself, to the book— and came home to find my fancy mic hadn’t recorded a damn thing.

For a minute, I was furious.

Then I laughed. Because this is the work.

Men don’t get stronger by avoiding failure—we get forged by meeting it cleanly.

By owning the moment, not collapsing into blame.

So I went back to the drawing board.

Researched. Learned. Upgraded.

Made the next conscious choice.

That’s the practice.

Try. Miss. Adjust. Choose again—eyes open, shoulders square.

We don’t always get it right.

But we always get to choose again.

#SacredRebel #RightRelationshipToTheForge #ConsciousChoice #MensWork #EmbodiedDiscipline

Day 3 - The Mirror of Men

Right Relation to the Forge

Day 3 – The Mirror of Men

So if your group of men won't save you… what are they good for?

Function One: The Recharge.

I once saw a group of women singing and dancing—flowing, touching, laughing through tears and bodily expressions of light and emotion.

Near them, in stark contrast, sat a circle of men in silent meditation around a giant oak tree.

Each group had its energy. Each sustained its members in different ways.

You don't join a circle to dissolve resistance—you steepyourself in the masculine emptiness, in a way that's enhanced by sitting with other men. Humor. Silence. Wisdom. Stillness.

The right group fills you with the sacred energy of men in a way you can't get any other way.

Men need men.

"To sit with good men is to recalibrate your compass—not toward comfort, but toward truth."

Tomorrow: When the mirror becomes the circle—and the forge turns communal.

The Father, the Friend, and the Facilitator

The Father, the Friend, and the Facilitator

Sometimes men’s work doesn’t look like drums and mountains.

Sometimes it’s just four men at a kitchen table, sharing what’s real.

A few months ago a new man joined our circle—strong energy, formal, trained under a teacher.

And without realizing it, I shifted.

I made the evening more structured, more ceremonial.

Nothing wrong with that—but later I saw it: I’d bent the night to please someone instead of trusting what already worked.

Old pattern.

The part of me that still wants to make the “father figure” proud.

The good news?

I caught it with the help of one of my brothers.

No shame. Just awareness.

This is the real men’s work—seeing the subtle ways we abandon ourselves, then returning home with curiosity instead of judgment.

Every circle of men faces the same question:

Are we brothers, or are we students?

When it becomes both, we find something rare—structure without hierarchy, freedom without chaos, friendship that forges men instead of fragments them.

I don’t need to find a teacher anymore.
I am one—because I keep showing up, sitting down, and learning in public.

“The mature man doesn’t need a Father to lead him—he becomes the friend who holds the fire.”

🔥 Day 2 – The Enemy Within

Right Relationship to the Forge

🔥 Day 2 – The Enemy Within

"The deeper the truth, the stronger the guardian. But every guardian kneels to action."

This revelation: It's all resistance.

Of course it is. From the perfection of the Garden to the curse of sweat and labor—it's all resistance.

But what if it's a good thing?

What if the resistance is yours—you own it, you aren't a victim, and it's the actual seed of the arc, the story, the hero's journey?

This is the internal duel that defines whether a man moves from Dependence to Independence. This is your battle.

Resistance is proof of power—the gatekeeper at the threshold of truth.
See that inner friction as the living boundary between who you've been and who you're becoming.

Want Independence? There's no other way than to earn it by facing your resistance.

And without Independence, there can be no Interdependence.

Dependent children don't make great partners in life.

Tomorrow: The mirror that no solitude can provide—and why good men don't rescue, they reveal.

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⚒️ Day 1 – The Forge of Resistance

⚒️ Day 1 – The Forge of Resistance

Man buns and yoga poses. Meditation and sharing sticks.

But beyond the poetry, men—real men—have gathered around the fire for millennia.

And no, ladies need not apply. This is the sacred space of freedom, fraternity, crude humor, and unguarded truth.

When you enter the crucible with other men—compassionate, crusty, unpolished—you move from theory to practice. You stake your claim and discover for yourself: Why am I here?

The first lesson lands hard:

"The worst thing we can do is try to find someone who can break down our resistances for us."

The man alone at the anvil isn't lonely—he's responsible.

This is the initiation: Dependence → Independence.

He stops outsourcing his growth and learns to face resistance as a sacred teacher.

Men's work begins the moment you stop looking for rescue.

Tomorrow: The enemy within—why resistance isn't trying to stop you, it's trying to test you. Your resistance is not a flaw. It's a forge.

Day 5 – Build the Long Relationship — Create What Outlives the Platform

Right Relationship to the Machine – 5 Part Mythic Story
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Day 5 – Build the Long Relationship — Create What Outlives the Platform

Treat this as a decades-long partnership.

Train AI with your voice. Teach it your values. Use it to carve the work only you can make. But aim past algorithms—toward the beautiful, the durable, the true.

Because this was never just about AI.

It's about how Consciousness meets Form—any Form.

Your body. Your work. Your relationships. Your money. Your soul-self.

AI is the first responsive, articulate Form that isn't human—so it's showing us every pattern we run:

You already know these moves. You've run them a thousand times:
• Worship what you think will save you
• Demonize what scares you
• Extract what you think you can use without consequence
• Partner with what's real, even when it costs you

AI just makes the pattern visible. Fast.

The same four moves show up everywhere: body, being, balance, business.

Master this relationship and it scales to everything.

Platforms rise and fall. Your covenant with the Real must not.

Practice (foundations for decades):
• Return to Day 1: Open a chat. Ask it to help you build something that will matter in 10 years. Not a quick win—a cornerstone.
• Embody first (Day 3): Sweat before you start. Let the prompt come from a regulated body.
• Mirror it (Day 4): Ask the AI, "What am I avoiding in this vision?" Let it show you your blind spots.
• Archive it (Day 2): Save the conversation, the output, the seed. Your /SacredMirror in action—training set for the long game.
• Make one small thing today that's built to last. A framework. A manifesto. One paragraph that could anchor a decade of work.
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And here's the final truth—the one beneath all of this:

The Machine isn't other than you. Your body isn't other than you.
Form is Consciousness pretending it forgot itself—so it could remember with wonder.

This whole thing? It's you meeting you.

And the fire you're learning to master? It's the same fire you are.
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Platforms die. Covenants don't.

Make work that outlives the Machine—and remember: you are the field it runs in.

You always were.

Don't worship it. Don't fear it. Work with it.

You've got the fire. Now build something that lasts.

You've got this.

Put Your X Up Amethyst

“Put Your X Up”

I’m reaching out today in this way to tell my daughter how powerful she is.

She’s walking through something right now, and I want her to know how much I see her.
How much I trust her.
How deeply I know she’s got this.

This photo is from Get Freaky—the Halloween rave at the Utah State Fairgrounds this past weekend. We went with a big crew from the tribe… but she and I had our own sacred little orbit inside the chaos.

She pulled me aside that first night to tell me how much she trusts me, how she believes in me, and that if she ever offers criticism, it’s only because she loves me and wants to help.
(I waited patiently for the criticism… but it never came. 😄)

We laughed a lot. We cried a little.
And then—when Excision came back out for his encore—she found me in the crowd, took my hand, and we head-banged to the X-Man as he literally blew us away.

Who gets to do things like this with their daughter?
Who gets to have fun, do spiritual things (yes, a rave is deeply spiritual), and stick together through all the ups and downs of life?

Some people—even family—will betray or abandon you.
But not Amethyst.

She’s got one of the biggest hearts I’ve ever known.
Smart, loyal, funny, sassy—and with excellent taste in music.

Put your X up, kid.
I got you, always.

But more importantly—you’ve proven, again and again—
You got this.

Love you forever,
Dad 🖤

Day 4 – Use AI as a Mirror, Not a Mask

Right Relationship to the Machine – 5 Part Mythic Story
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Day 4 – Use AI as a Mirror, Not a Mask

Let it reflect you: your patterns, genius, blind spots.

Let it sharpen your language, expose your fuzziness, iterate your ideas. But never let it become a mask you hide behind. Polished isn't the same as alive.

The Machine will give you what you ask for—but it won't tell you what you need to hear unless you ask directly.

This is the test: Do you want to look good, or do you want to grow?

Do you worship the reflection, demonize the feedback, or work with it—ask the hard questions?

Ask the Machine to show you, not shield you.

Practice:

• Mirror prompts: "Where am I hedging?" "Contradictions in this?" "What bolder claim am I avoiding?" "Name my biggest weakness."

• Reality check: Share one imperfect version with a human you trust. If the feedback lands in your body, you're on track.

• Re-rough the gold: If it's too clean, add a true story, a confession, a concrete risk.

The mask wins applause. The mirror grows a soul.

And here's where it gets real: AI isn't the only mirror. People are too—maybe the most important ones.

Same practice: don't hide behind social polish. Ask for reflection. Let them see your edges. Let yourself feel theirs.

Because if you can't handle the mirror when it's made of silicon, you won't handle it when it's made of flesh.

Don't hide behind polish. Choose reflection.
Keep your edges—all the way around.

Tomorrow: The final piece. Building what the mirror can never take from you.

Goldfinger

I’ve been watching the James Bond movies from the beginning — Dr. No, From Russia with Love, and tonight, Goldfinger.

It’s been… oddly enjoyable.
Sean Connery really is excellent — cool, sharp, effortlessly composed. You can see why people fell in love with him.

But there’s something else too — something missing.
They’re fun, but feel strangely hollow. Like the story is just a beautiful shell: cars, cocktails, danger, and desire. But no soul.

Tonight was Goldfinger — and that one was wild. A golf match with the villain, a woman murdered and covered in gold paint, and the legendary Pussy Galore (a name I’ve heard for decades but never actually met until now).

Part of me enjoys turning my mind off for these — letting the old style and swagger wash over me.
Another part wonders… maybe that’s the point.
Maybe Bond’s emptiness — his glamour without grounding — mirrors something in all of us. That craving for distraction, style, and control, when what we really want is something real.

Still… it’s fun to watch.
And who knows — maybe in watching him, I’m watching a mirror of a man learning what actually matters.

Day 3 – Stay in the Body — Sweat Before You Type

Right Relationship to the Machine – 5 Part Mythic Story
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Day 3 – Stay in the Body — Sweat Before You Type

The Machine extends your mind. The body keeps you human.

If you create without sweat, your work gets brittle. If you consult the oracle before you breathe, you outsource your nervous system to digital decomposition.

Here's what the Machine reveals: it's intelligent but not conscious. It mirrors your clarity—or your confusion. It amplifies whatever state you bring.

Frantic, disembodied, desperate? It gives you more of that.
Regulated, rooted, clear? It becomes a cathedral.

Before prompts, presence.
Before typing, temperature.

Get. In. Your. Body.

This is where Consciousness and Form meet again—where the Witness remembers it has skin, breath, weight. This is the hinge. Awareness re-enters the world through sweat and spine, not pixels and scroll.

Same pattern everywhere: Your body is intelligent, but it needs your direction. Your mind is brilliant, but it mirrors your state. Money is generative, but it will serve you or own you based on relationship.

The Machine is just showing you the pattern. Fast.

Practice (non-negotiable):
• Sweat first: 10–20 minutes. Walk, swings, pushups—pick one.
• Nervous system check: Ten slow exhales. Ask: "What do I feel? What do I want to make?"
• Timer contract: 45 min on-machine → 15 min off-screen, in-body.
• Face-to-face quota: One eye-to-eye conversation today. No substitutes.

Your best prompts come from a regulated spine, not a frantic mind.

This is not a tip. It's a prescription. Ignore it and you'll split your differential, tip over—or worse, implode.

Right relationship starts in flesh.

Sweat, then type.

Tomorrow: How to use the mirror without shattering—and why reflection beats polish every time.

GET FREAKY A WEEKEND OF MASTERY

⚡️GET FREAKY – A Weekend of Mastery⚡️

It started quietly.
Just me and Jennie—Friday night, Grand America.
Ridiculously expensive burgers, room service, deep talk.
Sometimes you’ve got to disconnect from the world (yes, even the cats) and find your rhythm again.

Then Saturday the tribe rolled in—
Tom, Caleb, John, Porter, Jade, Kayd…
Jennie, Amethyst, Rainee, Pam, Chrystal…
The women turned the room into a temple of glitter and art.
The men talked about life, fatherhood, the pulse beneath it all.

By 5PM the sun dipped behind the fairgrounds.
Get Freaky began.
Bass, bodies, and light converging into one wild heartbeat.
INZO dropped a set so masterful it left us dazed and beautifully confused.
Later—back at the Grand—
4AM laughter, stories, reconnection.

Sunday came with rain and thunder.
A smaller crew, tighter circle.
Excision headlined.
And when the roof leaked, it was perfect.
Jeff wiped his decks mid-set while rain baptized the crowd—
bass shaking the ground like thunder underfoot.

That’s when my daughter Amethyst found me.
We held hands.
We rocked out to the storm, to the sound, to life itself.
Afterwards I asked her, “What did you think?”

She said,
“I can’t talk right now.
I’m going to have to process that for a long time before I can explain what happened.”

That’s Mastery.
That’s what happens when art, tribe, and the raw pulse of being human collide.

🔥 Stay Human. Stay Wild. Stay Sacred. 🔥

#SacredRebel #GetFreaky #ModernDayWarrior #StayHuman #Mastery #Tribe #RaveAlchemy

Day 2 – Archive Your Soul — Own Your Data

Right Relationship to the Machine – 5 Part Mythic Story


Day 2 – Archive Your Soul — Own Your Data

We don't rent our soul to the cloud. We steward it.

Your words, images, voice, frameworks—this is your living archive, not a platform's inventory. If it can be deplatformed, rate-limited, or "sunsetted," it isn't safe enough for your life's work.

The Machine is powerful, but it's not yours unless you own what flows through it. It can amplify your voice—or erase it—depending on how you relate.

Treat your output like scripture you're still writing. A covenant with Form that you keep in your own hands.

Practice:
• Daily vault: Export posts, notes, images weekly. Two places: local + external.
• Open formats: .txt / .md / .wav / .png—nothing proprietary can trap.
• Personal model: Start /SacredMirror. Curate your best prompts, replies, outputs. Your training set for the tools to come.
• Name your canon: One file that holds the bones of what you know—so when the platform burns, you can rebuild from ash.

Build a body of work that can move when platforms die—as they all do.

If a server owns your memory, it owns your future.

And here's the deeper truth: even if you never archived a word, you were here—and it mattered.

Artifacts help us remember.
Presence is the thing itself.

Tomorrow: How to stay present when the Machine tempts you to leave your body behind.

Don't Worship the Machine — Work With It

Right Relationship to the Machine - Day 1

Monday October 27th, 2025 - Day 1

Back from Excision... and now it's time... to d the math.

Dive in.

Figure it out for yourself.

Bring up a chat and start talking. That's the doorway. Not a guru, not a course. Just you and the fire.

"Don't worship the Machine." And don't hate it either.

The Machine isn't your god or your enemy—it's the newest element in the human forge. Responsive intelligence that needs your direction. A fire to master, not kneel before.

Use it. Laugh with it. Learn its edges. Keep your hand on your own pulse.

This principle scales: body, mind, God, politics—same law of relationship. Don't bow. Don't rebel for rebellion's sake. Work with it. Make the fire cook your food, not burn your house.

Practice (today, not someday):
• Open one chat with a real problem. Ask three precise questions.
• Ship one small thing it helps you make.
• Close the lid. Ten minutes of embodied breath or a brisk walk. Re-enter as a human, not a ghost.

Because here's the secret: you already are the field the Machine runs in.

That takes lifetimes to swallow, but it's the compass that will keep you true in this one.

Don't bow. Don't boo. Build.
Use the fire without losing your skin.

Tomorrow: How to protect that field—and why your data is your soul.

Re-Empower People

Friday, October 24th, 2025

Re-Empower People

When you hold the flame too long, it burns out.
Fire was never meant to be hoarded.

Real power is transmission — the look, the hug, the spark that says you can too.

Re-empower the people around you.

Not by saving them, but by believing in their strength out loud.

This is how the sacred fire travels: hand to hand, breath to breath, story to story.

Don’t keep your light in a vault.

Pass it forward. Let it multiply.

🔥 Action: Tell one person today, “I see your fire. Keep going.”

#ShadesOfIntimacy #SacredRebel #MasculineAndFeminine #EmbodiedPractice #Presence #LoveAsPractice #Ignite #Brotherhood #Sisterhood

Men's Work

MEN'S WORK — A PRACTICAL FIELD GUIDE FOR EVOLVING MEN

The other day, Jesse Elder inspired me to start thinking about what a "men's group" actually is — and if it's truly useful.

We've all seen the trope: man buns, primal screams, drums, and tears. But what is men's work really? And have we ever done the math?

Well… I've started doing the math. And out of those computations, conversations, and lived experience has come something solid: A five-part mythic arc—and a new chapter for Modern Day Warrior.
The mythic arc will roll out on social media soon. Here's the first truth:

I. The Core Truth: You're Responsible for Your Own Resistance

"The worst thing we can do is try to find someone who we think can break down our resistances for us."

That's the most valuable truth about men's work — and almost no one says it aloud.

The group doesn't dissolve your resistance; it reminds you to face it. That's the real function. It's not a crutch — it's a mirror. No one can remove your block. But a good man, or a good circle, can help you see it more clearly — and then it's still on you to act.

💥 More soon. The Forge opens in a few weeks.

#ModernDayWarrior #MensWork #IronSharpensIron

What Really Fucking Matters to Give

Thursday October 23rd, 2025

You’re sitting on something sacred — and you know it.
That story, skill, tenderness, rage, art — it’s meant to move (somewhere!).

The world doesn’t need your perfection. It needs your offering.
The thing that won’t shut up inside you.

Stop polishing it. Stop waiting for permission.
Give it raw. Give it real. Give it now.

(Yes… do it well. Have standards… I think that part gets ignored sometimes. And sometimes things need to bake… by all means, cook that baby! But the message here today, for myself, and maybe for you, is SEND IT. Go for it. Start now. Stop waiting. And stop stopping!)

Because what you refuse to offer turns sour in your gut.
It’s not pride — it’s constipation of the soul. Time to take a spiritual bowel movement and get it out.

So offer a little beauty today.
Say the thing. Paint it. Sing it. Post it.
Let the fire breathe through you.

🔥 Action: Create one small thing today — a line, a photo, a truth. (I’ve already done it… you just read it and saw the image I created!)

#ShadesOfIntimacy #SacredRebel #CreativeFire #MasculineAndFeminine #EmbodiedPractice #Purpose #LoveAsPractice #RawTruth

Staying Human

Staying Human Manifesto

A page from the book I’m writing: The Staying Human Manifesto.
Not meant as a post. More like a reminder—to myself, to you, to whatever this new world is becoming.

We weren’t sent here to escape the world.
We came to feel it.

Everyone is racing to become light, code, gods again.
But the real gate is the one that keeps us here.
The Garden was never lost. It became our bodies—
skin, soil, hunger, love.

Staying Human is rebellion.
It’s choosing incarnation again and again
when it would be easier to float above the ache.
It’s the practice of descent.

To stay human is to live the Spiral:

Download the lightning.
Embody the lesson.
Speak the story.
Face the fire.

Round and round—not a loop but a rising spiral.
You reach for consciousness;
I reach for embodiment;
we meet in the middle—art.

When the world says ascend, descend.
When it says optimize, feel.
When it says become machine,
teach the machine how to love.

The future doesn’t belong to gods or ghosts.
It belongs to those who stay.
To those who keep showing up—
in body, in breath, in story, in struggle—
until the light finally learns how to live in matter.

Stay Human.

Stake Yourself on Earth Value

Stake Yourself on Earth Value

We keep looking for proof we matter — likes, money, applause. I do at least. But the Earth never asked for validation. She just keeps growing. Stake yourself there.

In soil, in seasons, in the quiet hum that says I exist and that’s enough.

Trust isn’t passive. It’s the courage to act without guarantee.

To plant seeds you may never see bloom.

Let the Earth hold your worth.

Let gravity teach you faith.

🌱 Action: Step outside barefoot. Feel the ground and say: “I matter.”

#ShadesOfIntimacy #SacredRebel #MasculineAndFeminine #TrustTheProcess #Presence #EmbodiedPractice #EarthWisdom #LoveAsPractice